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[quote=Anonymous][b]OP, as someone who ignored these signs and married someone who did stuff like this: GET OUT NOW.[/b]

Look, DH and I are still married, but only because of [i]years[/i] of expensive anger management counseling and couples therapy. He now FINALLY has a handle on it after 10 years of marriage and help. 10 years! Do you want to waste 10 years fixing an abusive person, or do you want to marry someone who treats you right?

If it helps you gain clarity (possibly you had the same experiences?) I grew up with an emotionally abusive dad and so I was primed to marry an abusive person because I thought this behavior was normal enough to excuse it. It's not normal and it's not excusable and I know that now. Please benefit from my experience.

DH is a good person, but it has taken years of therapy for that good person to be present rather than the abuser. I love DH and DD (who is the reason I stayed and made things work and, I think, the reason DH worked so hard to overcome his issues) but if I had it to do over again, I would never have married him at all.[/quote]

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