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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't posted on this thread before, but I delivered with Wisdom and had GD with my first.  They told me that as long as I could control my sugars with diet and exercise, I could stay with them.  I was told if I had to go on insulin, I would need to transfer to OB care.  I think that's reasonable.

That said, I had the misfortune of seeing Whitney the appointment when I received my GD diagnosis and she all but said it was my fault.  I followed the diet very closely and gained little weight in pregnancy (in fact my baby ended up being only just over 7 lbs even though I had GD and went 10 days past dates).  Some of the Wisdom midwives get that there are factors with GD beyond the woman's control, but Whitney doesn't.  This time I am going to be sure NOT to schedule my post-GD appointment with her.[/quote]

I haven't met with Whitney yet. She sounds like a nightmare. How often do you have to meet with her? When I scheduled my third appointment, Tiphanni said I had to schedule with her, so I guess I'll find out myself if she's as awful as she sounds in a few weeks. [/quote]

This is the PP you quoted.  I'm not sure there is a specific number of times, and now that there are 6 midwives you could probably legitimately see her maybe 2-3x.  I am currently in the same boat as you (told I had to see her at my 3rd appt), so I am curious to see if there are other times that I am going to be told I have to see her.  But right after the GD will be one of the times I try my damnedest to avoid her!

Honestly, she's not ALWAYS a nightmare, but she is much more ... dogmatic ... than the other midwives in the practice.[/quote]

I'm the PP you're quoting. I'm seeing her in a few weeks. I really hope you are right. It is so hard not to be prejudiced against her from these boards. I think someone who thinks GD is the mom's fault is psycho, frankly. I think if she told me that, I'd tell her I thought she was psycho and that would be that - i guess I'd be looking for a new care provider. So I guess I'm in this weird place of going into a meeting with someone feeling like I have a chip on my shoulder, which isn't really fair or productive. Yet, it is hard to do otherwise after reading these boards for a while. I only occasionally see someone profess love for Whitney and it seems to be one of two variations. First, they meet her and are like "she was a complete drill sergeant during my pregnancy but clutch for the delivery" or they imply they actually liked the "tough love." I don't like tough love. I want to be respected and treated as an equal. If I go in there and get demeaned, criticized, or patronized, I'll vote with my feet. I can't imagine trying to "avoid" her. But....I'm doing my best trying to reign in my feelings of rancor before I even meet the woman! But I've put in a call to FHBC to see about transfering if I really don't like her after my appointment so I guess I probably (and maybe unfairly) already have one foot out the door.

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Quoted poster here again.  This is probably obvious from my previous posts, but even having been through the really upsetting appointment with her where she implied the GD was my fault (for the record, I had a pre-pregnancy BMI of about 21-22, followed the diet carefully, failed the 1 hr and 3 hr by the slimmest of margins and never had any trouble keeping my sugar in check only with diet and exercise -- in fact, at the end of my pregnancy the endocrinologist said I could stop testing and didn't need to come in anymore -- only gained 25 lbs in pregnancy, 7 lb baby, unmedicated vaginal birth, etc.) I am still going to Wisdom for my second birth.  Mostly this is because I do really like the other midwives (I have not yet met the two new ones, but hear they are great).  I particularly really love Nora and Laura, one of whom delivered my first.  If I hadn't had the specific GD experience with Whitney, I would probably still think she was a little overly intense about some things, but accept that that is probably a part of what has made her so successful.  [/quote]

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