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I could ask the same thing. OP just posted that she was in the hospital, scared to bits that she might be losing her own pregnancy, and you're schooling her on the semantics of fetus vs. baby? I can completely understand why you'd want to make this clear, but you didn't need to be such a dick about it "I'll give you the benefit of the doubt" - so condescending. Ever consider a bit of kindness? "Hey OP, hope your own pregnancy is just fine - just a note - I noticed you used the word "fetus." a 28 week loss is a stillbirth, and though many people are confused about the term, a parent might feel very hurt to have their loss minimized as a fetus.

Though really, if I lost my "fetus" before 20 weeks, or my "baby" after 20 weeks,[b] I don't think somebody's fine tuned semantics would make much of a dent in my grief. And I say this knowing someone who had a loss at 18.5 weeks and someone who suffered a 24 week loss. [/b]Both of them were devastated. And OP was freaking out when she posted, and your shitty phrasing was unnecessarily rude and pedantic. Perhaps you, yourself, come from a place of loss / grief, but you still aren't excused from basic human kindness. [/quote]

Your phrasing was much shittier and nastier, and especially uncalled for. You obviously don't know much about this type of grieving. Ask your two friends, they probably can tell you loads about how much bad wording can hurt while you're grieving.

OP, I didn't see you're in the hospital. Hope all goes well with your pregnancy. Odds are on your side that the baby will be fine.[/quote]

OK, PP, I'll do that. I'll call my friends and remind them of their loss to resolve an internet argument with someone who is very concerned about what other people say. You were rude and condescending to a frightened woman in a hospital.  You have NO IDEA about my experience with loss, by the way. As I have no idea about yours. Let's leave it at that, shall we? People deserve the benefit of the doubt without rubbing it in their face that you are giving them the benefit of the doubt. You don't do yourself or your cause any favors by being caustic without provocation. [/quote]

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