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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt as you were just hit with the news. Please DON'T call the stillborn baby   "fetus", especially not within earshot of your grieving friend. It's a loaded term that minimizes the loss of parents with babies born still.[/quote]

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that maybe you didn't mean to sound as much like a dick as you did. 
- Not OP. [/quote]

WTF is wrong with you?[/quote]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt as you were just hit with the news. Please DON'T call the stillborn baby   "fetus", especially not within earshot of your grieving friend. It's a loaded term that minimizes the loss of parents with babies born still.[/quote]

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that maybe you didn't mean to sound as much like a dick as you did. 
- Not OP. [/quote]

WTF is wrong with you?[/quote]

I could ask the same thing. OP just posted that she was in the hospital, scared to bits that she might be losing her own pregnancy, and you're schooling her on the semantics of fetus vs. baby? I can completely understand why you'd want to make this clear, but you didn't need to be such a dick about it "I'll give you the benefit of the doubt" - so condescending. Ever consider a bit of kindness? "Hey OP, hope your own pregnancy is just fine - just a note - I noticed you used the word "fetus." a 28 week loss is a stillbirth, and though many people are confused about the term, a parent might feel very hurt to have their loss minimized as a fetus.

Though really, if I lost my "fetus" before 20 weeks, or my "baby" after 20 weeks, I don't think somebody's fine tuned semantics would make much of a dent in my grief. And I say this knowing someone who had a loss at 18.5 weeks and someone who suffered a 24 week loss. Both of them were devastated. And OP was freaking out when she posted, and your shitty phrasing was unnecessarily rude and pedantic. Perhaps you, yourself, come from a place of loss / grief, but you still aren't excused from basic human kindness. [/quote]

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