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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reason I know that they are referring to gender is that they comment on how lucky I am to have daughters. Now that I think about it, the only people who do this are other women.

It makes me wonder whether mothers in general hear more positive comments about having daughters than sons.

And maybe fathers hear more positive comments about having sons, than daughters.

I don't know. Totally sexist either way.

I am grateful to all you Moms raising amazing sons. Keep on!

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Even if they say "you are lucky to have such great daughters" about your adult children, I would not naturally assume that they are commenting on the sex of your children - because they are adults.  In my mind they are complimenting you on your children, who happen to be daughters.  How else would they say this when they are all the same sex?  "You are so lucky to have such great children"?  Once they are grown they are not children any more.  We have several family friends with three adult daughters.  If I saw them interacting together well and demonstrating what wonderful families they are I might compliment them on their closeness or how great their daughters are but it's not a judgment that they are lucky that their family turned out to be all girls at all.  It's just a compliment to their family dynamics.

Maybe my views are different from the people you encounter, but even though I am a mother of two boys myself, I personally, would have a slight bias against having three of the same of either gender.  I don't think this is unusual.  I saw the reactions when my sister in law announced she was having a third girl and they were not any different from those I've heard described by people having a third boy.  (E.g. "will you try again for a boy?"  "shame you didn't get your boy" etc).

Now if you had three young daughters, comments about being lucky to have girls would more likely be explicitly about them being girls.  
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