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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the backstory.  My father's wife does not have any children of her own.  She married my dad when we were adults (youngest sibling was 24)  We don't even refer to her as step-mom - it's just too weird.   She's our father's wife.  I like her enough.  She's great, nice, everything is fine.  We have children now and she is wonderful with our kids (more than even my mom - who "tolerates" the toddlers but has never offered to take the kids on her own - unlike my dad's wife).

The kids call dad's wife grandma and spend a lot of time with her.  when my son was born, my dad made a big deal about mother's day and insisted we do something for his wife - since she's his grandma.  (as a backstory, my brother refused with his kids saying she is not his mother [b]and the kids will recognize her on "grandparents day" but not mother's day [/b]and there was a huge fight leading to them not speaking for about 2 years).  So, when my son was born, we gave a gift and card that said "happy mother's day, grandma"  and this has gone on for about 4 years (we now have 2 kids).

for some reason, this year it's sitting really weird with me.  I now get my brother's position.  This woman is not my mother, and we don't do "happy mother's day, grandma" from the kids to my own mother, or DH's mother.  (We do a Happy mother's day from us - their kids - but not from their grandkids.  So this year, for whatever reason, I feel really fake and weird giving this woman a mother's day wish from people that aren't her children.

Anyone have any thoughts?  [/quote]

Your brother is making way too much out of Hallmark holidays.  We don't celebrate grandparent's day, because that is even more made-up than mother's day.  Honestly, you're overthinking this.  You send her a card from your kids, it makes her happy, it costs you basically nothing.  (You could include your kids on the card to your mom or MIL if you wanted.)  I agree with the PP who said to always err on the side of kindness.  You may not be "obligated" to do anything, but do you really want your interactions with loving family members to be determined just by obligation?  If it wasn't called mother's day, you surely wouldn't have any problem with helping your kids express their love for their stepgrandmother.  So don't make a problem when there isn't one.  [/quote]

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