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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- You're being unfair to me, or you're reading selectively. I am not sticking my head in the sand, I'm beginning to explore the possibility by posting here.

I do not fear stigma. I don't know how I can say more plainly that my aversion to medicalizing her behavior has NOTHING to do with other people and their perceptions. I DO know that MY child will latch on to any excuse not to do something she doesn't want to do. This is the kid who, when punished for bad behavior at age barely-3, said "I did it because I'm hungry and tired". After all, WE used that excuse, didn't we? Why shouldn't she?

I do not think that psychoactive drugs are the right move for MY six year old who is not setting things on fire. I do not judge you for it. I want her to learn strategies, and *I* want to learn strategies. If your only strategies were medical, then perhaps we'll have things to say to each other in three or four years. For the moment, though, I would very much appreciate some thoughts on these early days.

As for "intending to ignore good advice", that's uncalled for. There is no one right answer. I would be doing my daughter a greater disservice by blindly following than by asking questions based on what I know about her. [/quote]

OP, your reaction seems a little defensive. I have a 7yr daughter who sounds like yours. she was the terror of her daycare, and after playing like crazy all day until 5.30, mu DH had to take her to the playground for another full hour before coming home, even was she was only 2. I was like that as a child (never diagnosed, always very advanced academically, but now I realize my awful disorganization, getting things done at the last moment, always borderline late, chronic procrastination, may have a reason) and I thought that was normal. with the second child, I saw it was not. we had our DD evaluated at 6. she had clra traits of ADHD (she has a highh IQ, emotionally mature for her age, but executive functions are very low). she gets distracted extremely easy, cannot sit down even for a meal, and she is a sensory seeker. as your child, she overflows with empathy for the entire universe, people, plants, animals. we were against medications, and still are. medications are really the last resort possible. we are not medicating her , but knowing what she has has helped us tremendously. she has an IEP at school (my DD has also another medical problem and the extra help she gets with the IEP was necessary) your DD may not need it, but may benefit for special accomodations, especially when she gets older. from what you say, her behavior is already affeting her at school. getting her evaluated would just give you the knowledge of what she has (if anything), and the tools to help her cope and deal with her own nature. this is not making excuses, or putting labels, is facing reality. in short, knowing what you are dealing with is the first step to know what you need to do about it, and how you can help your DD grow up into a functioning, happy and confident adult. she may grow up, mature and learn on her own how to cope, but she may not and loose self estime in the process. I understand your reluctance in madicating her, but I do not understand your reluctance in having her evaluated when you admit that somethignh is off and that you are scared. [/quote]

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