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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks all. I probably do need to light up on some level, but as another PP noted, I'm partially annoyed because it IS a passive-aggressive way to get what she wants.

Apart from flat-out refusing to follow "my crazy FTM rules" (put him on his back to sleep, always use the car seat in the car *and* do up the buckles, no giving sugar to the baby as a treat, etc.), she does have some physical limitations and memory issues.

She's almost dropped him quite a few times and usually tries to cover it by saying that he's really wiggly or heavy or strong for her (he's 14lbs, not huge), yet then she tries to lift him up above her head to play "airplane." She's extremely iffy on the stairs and leans heavily on the handrail to get up and down.

She can't remember how to spell his name (it's 4 letters, not difficult), or his birthday, or how old he is. She can't remember if she fed or walked her dog that day, frequently forgets to close and lock the door to her house, often has no idea what day it is, etc.

Anyway, I like the idea of leaving DH with her and going to the ballet with a girlfriend. Or just explaining we're not ready to leave him yet and suggest she use the tickets. The thing is, I see these issues getting worse, not better over time (though he will get to be less work once he can walk, dress himself, etc.), so I'm not sure I will really ever feel comfortable with her babysitting him. [/quote]

yikes.  I usually side with in-laws on these types of posts, but given this description, I agree that she should not babysit.  But you need to tell her what's up instead of just putting her off.  She obviously is not getting the message.  My DH has an aunt that helped care for him as a baby, and was over-the-top excited to babysit when our daughter was born (she's 3 now).  We did not want to insult her, but she also had physical and mental limitations.  We solved the issue by hiring a "real" babysitter, and then asking Aunt to come over and help keep an eye on things.  The babysitter, who was a close friend, knew about the issue and made sure DD was safe, but I think it made DH's aunt feel like she was very invovled, and that we respected her as a caregiver.  But we also made sure to never leave her alone with the baby.

For this round, OP, if you do not want to have this family fight (it's coming, though... you need to get it out there) I vote DH stays home and you go with a friend.[/quote]

15:39 here. I missed OP's response when she first posted it.
NO. No, no, no, no, no. This woman cannot babysit. No.
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