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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry but you need to be grateful!

Your MIL wants to babysit. You have someone who loves your child that is willing to take your child for 3 short hours so you can reconnect with your DH. Do you know how many of us would LOVE that? I don't love my ILs either, but you know how thrilled I would be if they lived closer so I can drop off my child with them and go one a date with my DH. She isn't asking you to hang out with her. I don't see what the big deal about 3 hours is. Your kid is going to spend time with someone that loves them, and you get a night out.

Do you realize how much it sucks to not have any family in town to help you out???? Let's just say it sucks!

If you don't want to spend time your DH, then that's one thing, but if you do, suck it up! [/quote]

We have absolutely no family anywhere near us. It does suck. I wish we did, and I'm jealous of people who do. Even so, I don't think OP is off base here at all.

If MIL is truly incompetent, a whole lot can happen in three hours. If you read OP's post, it isn't about whether she likes MIL, so your point that "she isn't asking you [OP] to hang out with her" is irrelevant. That's not the issue.

OP, I think you have to decide what your "dealbreakers" are and discuss them honestly with MIL. In a perfect world, your DH would deal with his mother. Easy for PP's to say. I am in a situation similar to yours. I'm a big girl, and so is MIL. If we have issues, we address them directly. I don't need my DH to communicate on my behalf. Sometimes she really hears me, sometimes she doesn't, and vice versa.

One uncomfortable honest discussion could save you a lot of anxiety and drama moving forward. Be specific about the things that make you nervous.

Good luck![/quote]

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