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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I totally appreciate the honest thoughts.  I am trying to figure out if I'm as ungrateful as he describes or if he is sort of a loser.

My husband says he is doing many other things and I just don't see what they are and that if I am that blind it shouldn't be his job to account for every minute of his day.  It's a catch 22.  If I ask him to tell me what he does with his time he feels disrespected, if I don't know what he does with his time or don't see much productivity, I start to think he's a bum, we spiral down.[/quote]

Dear OP, When DH accuses you of being ungrateful, it is his way of changing the subject and putting the issues on you, as if they are you fault, which they are not. He is not willing to address why he is unemployed and has not applied to any jobs and when called on the carpet about what he is doing, he gets aggressive and tries to make it seem as if you are the problem. You are not ungrateful. Has anyone in your family ever said that about you before? I would guess not. He just does not want his easy ride of having to do very little in terms of work to end.[/quote]

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