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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sick of people holding back April and May babies, too.  It is getting out of control.  Do you realize they will be 19 when they are in HS?

To the PP above, just because the kids were sitting still now, doesn't mean they were in September.

It just seems at first Aug/Sept babies were hold backs, but now there are April and May and June holdbacks.  Where does it end?  And seriously, they will be 19 in HS?!!  I know of girls and boys.  Do you think it is a good idea to have a 19 old in HS?  Think of the implications there.  [/quote]

+1000 on this. This makes me angry too. When I clicked on this thread, I assumed it was a discussion of "border" babies - end of summer/September babies. But we're talking MAY? In the mathematical MIDDLE of the pack of the kids? And you held this kid back? People like you really give this "red shirting" decision a bad name. [/quote]

But why does this make you angry?  Whats it to you?  You have no idea what the reasons are, and you never will because another child's development is not your business.[/quote]

NP here -- others can be angry about your decision to redshirt your child.  Why?  Because my son has a September birthday.  Unless he seems to be totally unprepared, we plan to send him to school on time.  He's not very large, but reasonably developed socially and physically.  He doesn't need gigantic 7-year-olds in his class.  They should be in first grade.[/quote]

Ah, the myth of the "gigantic" redshirted child.  Have you noticed the huge range of sizes of same-age children?  My guess is that the gigantic child in your DC's class was not red shirted.

I think all of you are angry because you think someone is getting away with something and you feel competitive about your children.  What you don't realize is that it is detrimental to your children to have classmates who are unprepared to be there.  You don't even have an elementary school child so you have no idea what happens to a classroom with such a child.[/quote]

As a parent of an August birthday girl, it does matter some to me.  My DD is ready for K - socially, emotionally and academically-- according to her preschool teachers, testing scores our observations and those of K teachers, but we often feel pressure to hold her back a year, "just because".   We talked with her school for next year and she will be the youngest child in the class, and we are in VA, where the cut off is over a month AFTER her birthday.  She will have several kids in her class a full year older than her.  Now, a child who is completely ready for school will be considered immature, not  b/c she is NOT ready for school, but because others didn't go when they were ready.   She is about average in size (65%ile) but does look small in a group of rising Kindergarteners.

All situations and all kids are different, I get that.  I also understand having some flexibility for kids born with in a month or so of the cut-off, but lately it seems like that flexibility continues to extend out... so now people with April and May birthdays are waiting a year, which I think makes the age range too large.  If the cut off is September 30 and an April child "red-shirts" it makes the age range in the classroom 17 months...  that's what makes it tough on kids and teachers alike, managing such a large range.

For those saying kids are falling apart in middle school, who knows why that is happening.  Maybe b/c kids are on the younger side, but it's likely it would have happened in 7th or 8th grade.   It may have more to do with the kid and the developmental changes than the grade in school.  Everyone goes through adolescence, and it's hard on many... including those who are right in the middle and those who "older" or "younger" than their peers- and this can be rough time, especially academically.[/quote]

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