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[quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to add another voice reccomending
1) educating her on newborn/infant development, so she doesn't go in with rose-colored glasses
2) having her there right away.  When you go into labor, have DH buy her a ticket for the next day (or two days if it's evening).  Arrange with her mom, if possible, for this to be the plan even if she is skipping school for a day or two.  Being one of the first to meet the baby will be such a precious memory for her!  You don't want her there right away, as there may be complications, etc. and you don't want DH to be divided between protecting her from anything scary and helping care for you/make medical decisions.  But you do want her there pretty much as soon as the baby is here.
3) think about ways to build a relationship between her and baby.  If she is holding baby and baby cries, frame it for her as "Oh, he/she is just overwhelmed.  He/she must be picking up on our excitement having you here.  It's okay little one.  You will know this exciting person soon enough!"  If she is holding the baby and the baby is calm, frame it as "Are you enjoying your big sister?  I hope you love her as much as we do!"  I know it sounds corny and manipulative, but it's good to verbalize positive interactions.[/quote]

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