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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh god..this is not true. I judge no one.. My friend told me in privacy and asked me to keep it so and I did. If your son has no issue with it..great..good for him but this can affect kids socially and there are a great deal of kids on the spectrum who with therapy turn out very much the same as the rest of the kids. Big surprise NT kids also have quirks and some social issues.  I realize this is a sensitive area for PP..I get that and I am not trying to be insensitive and I am talking about the kids who are high functioning who will and do fine with therapy. Sometimes I think parents amplify issues and I am not convinced it makes things better. Maybe I don't get it because I haven't walked in PP shoes..that could be possible but I am trying to be honest as I see it.[/quote]

PP and my DS is very high functioning.  Why keep it a secret unless its something you are ashamed of?  Your friend's child is probably young but as he grows he will know he is different and everyone around him will know he is different.  Having a word for it treats it like another characteristic of who they are.  Telling them to keep it a secret tells them it is a shameful thing, a bad thing.  If you tell your child that you don;t want people to think there is something terribly wrong with him if the truth comes out, you are telling him that the truth is that there is something terribly wrong with him.

Kids who are on the high functioning end of the spectrum can do extremely well, but they won't be "very much the same as the rest of the kids."  My DS is doing extremely well.  I could even argue that the diagnosis no longer fits.  But is is not at all the same as the rest of the kids.  In fact the teen and young adult years are particularly difficult for these kids while the later elementary years can be the golden age for them when everything appears to be all gone.

People with AS have elevated rates of depression and suicide.  I do not want that to be my son so he is being raised to think he's just fine as he is, AS and all.  I hope your friend realizes this eventually because if she keeps telling her son that he has a diagnosis that must be kept a secret she will be telling him that he something terribly wrong with him.  (Those are the exact words from a friend of DS whose parents approached it in this way).  And if she hasn't shared his diagnosis with him, she really needs to because he knows.  He may not have a word for it, but he knows.

I realize you mean well but you are making pronouncements about things you don't understand.[/quote]

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