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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a winner. He just thinks hold onto cash. Returned the money to account, ie, never took it out. Forgot to pay the lease. Not a tool, but I question his mental status. Wants to "play" with our savings by selling the house. I am having trouble sleeping at night. I am handicapped and was very ill that day, so he went by himself to the dealer and returned with the car after much discussion of how to pay for it. If half baked = mental you are getting the picture. Or something else is going on.[/quote]

OP,

As a DH who handles our homes finances - I do sometimes do things without telling DW - like for instance, jack up her 401K contribution to pull forward the maximum in order to time a bigger paycheck with Christmas or paying off one of the car loans but not the other - but its always the "smart" thing to do, and 90% of the time I bring it up before I do it. Under no circumstance would we discuss it, agree to something and then I'd go and do something else. My honest opinion here - and I hate to say it because I think everyone jumps to these conclusions every time and they are most often unwarranted ... but in this case, I have to believe he's squirreling your cash away for something else. A divorce, a secret account. Something. Either that or he's just a very poor communicator and financial planner. I can think of no other reason to lease a car after being handed a check sufficient to cover the cost of the car.  Do you know how much money he has saved up? What happened to the $50 some odd thousand that wouldnt have been used to lease? Is it in an account? Do you have a good financial picture? I think it sounds like no across the board. Maybe he has debts. Maybe he's just saving it all in accounts you dont know about. I dont know but for the first time ever on DCUM, I'll go out on a limb and say some slimy shit is going on here. 
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