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If you killed the baby inside you while I've been giving everything I have to hold onto one, then I am NOT going to be sympathetic, I'm not the one to turn to for comfort, and guess what--that's OK.  You're going to have to go somewhere else for understanding, not to a woman who has been turned inside out and tortured with infertility.

Yeesh, we're expected to be perfectly non-judgmental, compassionate saints in addition to everything else we're dealing with?[/quote]

A) Why is it about you?  If you were specifically asked to contribute with sympathy, sure you have a reason to excuse yourself.

B) Yeah, actually.  If all you've been through hasn't opened your eyes a bit to the need for humans to be warm and compassionate, then I'm sure it's been a REALLY hard road for you.  [/quote]

Uh, OP's friend was confiding in her, knowing about OP's infertility struggle.  And she had a "hard time for a while". . . and people here are asking OP to be sympathetic?  No.  That's superhuman.  Why does OP have to summon that kind of compassion when IF probably has her scraping the bottom of the barrel for strength (that's how I feel anyway).  And where was this friend's compassion for OP when confiding in her?

You don't have to be everything to everybody.  And when you're dealing with IF, you have enough on your plate.  I think it was selfish of this woman to even tell OP about the abortion, knowing what she's going through.  SHE's the insensitive one, OP is having a rather understandable reaction.[/quote]

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