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[quote=Anonymous]We all have horrid thoughts.  OP is just venting them on an anonymous forum--I think that she is taking the right route--she is not remotely about to tell her friend she hopes he can't have babies later, or "curse" her.  She probably deep in her heart doesn't mean it anyway, despite the thought forming in her head.  Resentment and pain are powerful and it's not reasonable to think you can police the thought JUST to an acceptable spot (here maybe "how horrid to be irresponsible and have an abortion instead of using birth control"), but then not wish punishment, and one that seems to fit the "crime", on the person you are resenting.

OP, having the thought is human.  If it persists and you're actively wishing it to happen, or if it does and you take some satisfaction from it--that's another story.  If you need therapy, I would say it is to deal with your infertility--your reaction to this friend is a side effect of the horror of infertility, not a sign that you are a bad person.  Therapy and a weekly support group have helped me immensely through this soul-searing search for motherhood.[/quote]

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