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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our son moved across the country, met a girl, they moved in together, and are now engaged. They originally wanted to elope, but I told my son that I would be very upset to not get to be present at my child's wedding. So now they are having a destination wedding in Mexico. A dinner for just the two families Thursday night, a welcome dinner for everyone Friday night, wedding Saturday night, brunch Sunday morning. They hired a wedding planner, which I had assumed meant that everything would be done according to the manners we are all used to.

Invitations went out. They say the bride's parents would like you to join them to celebrate as their daughter marries M______ (my son). No mention of myself or my husband. When DH and I brought this up to our son, he said that he asked if we wanted to contribute by paying for either of the dinners or the brunch, and because we're not, then we are not "hosting" the wedding, and her parents and he are paying for everything, which is why they are on the invite. DH is saying he has never been so humiliated before in his life. Our son also said, isn't it enough that we're having a wedding you can attend instead of eloping like we wanted to? So did he have us left off the invite as payback for me asking that they not elope? [/quote]

OP, to answer your original question, no, this would not "offend" me. What I would feel, if I paused to do a little self-reflection, is very proud that I raised a son who is gracious, thoughtful and mature, even though he was raised by parents who obviously can act like self-centered horse's asses. Further, I would do nothing more until I had apologized to said son and future DIL for this incident, recognizing that she will hold the key to how much contact I have with my son and grandchildren in the future.Because trust me, if you continue to test your son on matters like this, he will side with his wife -- as well he should.

I think there is a reason that he now lives across the country. [/quote]

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