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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tread carefully, OP.  You're laying the foundation of your relationship with DS and DIL for the rest of your lives.  Be warm, happy, and generous of spirit.  Don't be a PITA, and don't let your pride needlessly cause discord.  [b]At what sounds like significant financial cost to himself and future in-laws, your son agreed to have a wedding that he and his bride didn't want just to please you. [/b]Hold that thought in your heart and let the rest roll off.  [/quote]

OP, if I were your son, I'd have said to you, "If you'd like us to have a traditional wedding, are you prepared to pay for it?"  When you said no, I'd have responded, "Then sorry, we're going to elope as planned."  If you complained, I'd have told you to stuff it.  But your son didn't - he did what you wanted, and now you're getting on him because you don't like the invitations?  Way to lose the forest for the trees.

From your follow-up posts, you seem to be much more concerned about what your friends will think of you, rather than your son's happiness, or your relationship with your future DIL and her (now your) family.  You are setting yourself up for a boatload of trouble down the road.  You can turn this around, but you have to do it quickly, and it's not a one-time thing - no matter what you do here, you and your DH have a selfish attitude that you are going to have to get over for good if you want to have a happy relationship with your son in the future.

Let me put it in selfish terms that may be easier for you to understand:  your future DIL will have a significant say in your access to your son and grandchildren.  Bear that in mind.[/quote]

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