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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, people influenced by hormones, and especially teens influenced by hormones (and more especially teen BOYS so influenced) have clouded judgment and make poor decisions.  Add alcohol to the hormones cocktail and it's a very bad combination of circumstances with potentially devastating consequences.

The Steubenville thing is way beyond the pale, but my point is that at the end of the day, if there is any question at all about whether sex was rape, most of the time, the accused will be the boy/man.  It is therefore incumbent on boys and men to understand very clearly that if they are in a situation that they believe entails mutual consent, they must make 100% sure that the consent is clearly and freely given in a conscious way.  Anything less entails risk they should not take on.

I don't see a down side to educating our sons on this, but I see a huge up side. 
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This book Deborah Roffman should be required reading for all parents with kids about age 8 up, certainly for parents who have teenagers: http://sexandsensibility.net/
There is a chapter on the "boys will be boys" assumption, too. And there is plenty of information about how parents can remain in charge without being overbearing.
I came across the book in the Washington Post, in an article that discussed the case of, I believe, a Cardozo sports team calling prostitutes to their hotel room during an away game. Read the chapter about "values" but the whole book should be required reading, from cover to cover.[/quote]

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