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1.) It throws "sisterhood" out the window and replaces it with "mean girls."

2.) It's another example of women pushing other women to meet what is for some unreasonable expectations.
(I am convinced the anorexia and bulimia epidemic would be reduced if we stopped worshipping extreme thinness, praising people for being too thin and gossiping about those who gain too much weight. I don't think there are that many men attracted to the pre-pubescent male look in females.

3.) It shows a lack of awareness that people face different challenges than we do?
There are people with severe autoimmune disorders among us and people going through cancer treatment who haven't told you. There are plenty of people struggling with varying degrees of mental illness. There are people who seem to end up always the caregiver in their immediate and extended families and never the care receiver and they are burn out. There are people struggling in bad marriages that haven't told you. There are people with kids struggling with neurological illnesses and mental illness and physical illness. People do what they can handle. Just because one woman needs more rest than you do, or gets less done in a day, doesn't mean she has less value than you do.[/quote]

1) Not sure what this even means.  "sisterhood"?  I have friends, some old-dear-close friends, some local work-out buddies, trade babysitting, go out with friends. But I'm not sure what sisterhood is or what that should mean to me.  I like PEOPLE who are positive, work hard, don't complain, realize we only have one life to live, and provide something positive to my life.

2)  Personally I think the bar is really too low for many women, but I don't push or expect anything of any one else.  The recent, OMG I need to go to a hotel to get away from life  thread is an example.  If you are that burned out from life and your kids than make a change.  Now, many people do have challenges in life that are out of their control, but their reaction is within their control and this is where I judge people.

3)   I disagree that people do what they can handle.  MANY people don't do all that they can handle or complain about it the whole time!!
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Well you sound like a peach. [/quote]

Thanks, I am actually quite friendly, but I do have a positive attitude when it comes to living life and I won't be brought down by those who are complainers.  A lot of people like to complain about circumstances that they DO have control over.  I understand that many people are struggling with issues, but most people have issues they are dealing with if you ask.  Life goes on and it's all about your attitude. There are extreme situations but that's not the case for most.

If you complain about being fat and tired while holding a 64oz big gulp in your hand filled with coke I'm not really feeling bad for you.  If your house is mess and you're complaining about how hard it is to keep up after telling me about your favorite tv show then you need to prioritize.  If your kids and life really stress you out that bad then make some changes.  Many of us have ways to make changes, work smarter not harder, but don't and just complain about it.

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Bless your heart, you know it all.[/quote]

Never said that and don't feel that way.  I just had the realization a long time ago that life is short and it is what we make of it no matter what life throws our way.  So many people complain about their daily lives and about things that they could change if they really wanted to.  The obese lady at work that literally drinks a big gulp every morning and eats 2 meals at McDs every day for lunch complains about her diabetes and weight.  Really?  Another mom complains about how she can't find anything in her house and how all she does after work is run her kids around to a million activities - then organize your house, don't put your kids in a million activities.  Many people have the ability to change their situation, but choose to complain about it.

But, again, I never said I know it all and don't claim to.  I just know that I live a much happier life than many people I talk to because we no it won't last forever and the only thing I will truly leave my kids is their memory of me and how I lived my life.[/quote]

If you really were as happy and positive as you claim to be, you wouldn't feel the need to cut other people down. You would understand that you can never ever really walk a mile in someone else's shoes. You would be less judgmental and less defensive. So no, you do not have it quite as together as you keep insisting. [/quote]

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