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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is absolutely not weird, her feelings are valid, while you may not agree with them, they are still her feelings.  I am an adult adoptee and can see where OP is coming from.  I was an only child and had tons of cousins who were all biologically related and at times throughout my life [b]I wish I either looked more like them or did something more like them.[/b]  When I became pregnant, there was something oddly comforting that I would finally have one person in my life who shared the same genetic traits.  I know it sounds ridiculous to some people but DS was all I had in that respect.  Then I had DD and again I felt that same feeling.  Of course as I grew up people told me I looked just like my mom, or did this or that just like her.  I do think we have a lot in common but when someone tells me DD has my eyes or DS looks exactly like me I know that there is no area of grey like there was when people told me that as a child.

I don't have identity issues, I am very please with my life, love my parents and can't imagine anyone better to have raised me but I do still understand what OP is saying.[/quote]

I have heard this from all of my adult friends who are adoptees, that they just want to look at someone and have that comfort of familiarity that some of the traits they see in the mirror are reflected back in someone else's face.  I know people who have searched for their bio parents for years, had one or two meetings with them, and never maintained contact after that, but were able to just have that one moment of a physically familiar (because it's like yourself) presence.[/quote]

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