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[quote=Anonymous]I had my fourth child at age 47 (no IVF, just the normal way...). I don't know what I was thinking! I'd always wanted four children, really didn't feel my life/family was complete until I had the 4th child. But now, in my 50s, I am in perimenopause, the teenagers are so incredibly demanding, the 4th child is ill all the time, and I am completely exhausted. I'm not saying I regret it, but I do regret that I didn't start sooner. DH and I were married for eight years before we decided to have kids. We'd thought we had all the time in the world.

Sometimes I feel like I'm completely unravelling, and yes my 4th child has a far less coddled childhood than his older siblings did. I just don't have the energy to chase after him, read to him, whatever. My oldest child was taken to all sorts of enrichment classes, activites, etc., and my 4th child is carted around to the older kids' activities, mostly.

I don't have serious health problems yet, but I do have this constant exhaustion, brain fog, memory loss, and constant feeling of being overwhelmed and lacking control that I NEVER had with the first three. I always felt I was on top of everything with the first three, and now I feel like I'm floating around with #4, never quite in control/command, losing things, forgetting things, needing to take a nap.

No one told me to "go for it" though. That was my idea. So I found out the hard way that it's very, very tough to have a young child in your 50s, even without health issues. If I had a serious health issue, that would finish me.

Thanks for posting, OP. People need to hear the truth sometimes. All is not rosy in older-mom-land. [/quote]

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