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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody.  I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.[/quote]

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents.  They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.[/quote]

Well sure, I called it generous.  I just couldn't do it.  [/quote]

+1[/quote]

Maybe the couple "lucked out" in the sense that the biological parents had already completed their family, and it was a surplus embryo. We're not given any details but it could be something along those lines. [/quote]

Is that actually lucky? Can you imagine being the biological couple’s other children and knowing that your parents would just give your siblings away? It would make me feel very disposable. [/quote]

Could you imagine being the baby and when you grow up realizing your bio parents said, no thanks. [/quote]
The bio mom whose egg was used is not a parent, never was 
Neither is that child a sibling of some unknown person who they have never met.
It’s just genetics. Not ownership. People are not possessions [/quote]

No, it isn't just that simple. There will always be a biological pull and you can't take away tens of thousands of years of evolution. You can't magically erase that. It becomes even more complicated when a child is of a different race than the adoptive parents. It can be hard for a child of color to grow up with white parents and it makes it harder knowing you have parents and a biological sibling who looks like you do.

The couple who got custody never should have publicly identified themselves and certainly shouldn't have agreed to post a picture of their family. [/quote]

IMO, all these adults should be doing what is best FOR THE CHILD.

As soon as that baby was born they knew there was a mix-up. Once the DNA was done and bio parents were identified, truly selfless people would have given the bio parents THEIR baby.

Yes, the woman carried the embryo. Yes, it was absolutely gut-wrenching to have this happen. And no, just because the bio parents are identified and will keep in contact doesn't make it all right.

I cannot imagine the life this child will have when their visiting bio parents (and siblings?) come for a visit and then leave them behind. [/quote]

It’s best for the child to remain with whatever their primary caregiver was since birth. They will likely have little to no connection with anyone except the parent they’ve bonded to since infancy.[/quote]

What are you talking about? The minute this baby was born they knew there was an issue.

Within days, that NEWBORN's bio parents could have been identified and their baby returned to them. They obviously wanted the child or there wouldn't have been a custody issue.

I'll bet that money played a hand in this. Like it does with so many issues related to adoption in general. [b]Perhaps the biological parents knew they couldn't out-gun the adoptive parents legally.[/b] [/quote]

Apparently this was it. The law favors the parent who carried the child, which seems wrong to me. Heartrending for the biological parents--I can't imagine.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-15911703/embryo-custody-Tiffany-Score-Steven-Mills.html[/quote]

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