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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You put your kid in a wealthy school district then are shocked my wealthy people behavior?  Surely you knew wealthy people are selective in who they marry, associate with, befriend, and same for their child.  They aren’t going out of there to be nice to you if it doesn’t in some way benefit them.  Surely you knew this and wanted to be part of it, and sad you are not.

Go to a Title 1 school if you just want a bunch of  parents that aren’t superficial and don’t care who their kids’ are friends are (or their parents).   [/quote]

Not really. We've been at a Title 1 school and a school with lots of wealthy families (we moved explicitly to access stronger academic programs and more high achieving peers). They both had cliquey parents. People are pack animals. It's not really even about hierarchy (although some people will try to assert that their "pack" is the best one, so that can creep in). It's just a safety in numbers thing, not much different from how kids form groups of friends in school and will then try to exclude others. Or how both kids and adults sometimes freak out when their friends make there friends -- they are afraid to be on the outside looking in.

The most powerful thing you can do in the face of this is to just not care. I am very secure in who I am and in my worth (and my kid's worth). If we are not included in some pack, oh well, their loss. Partly due to having switched schools, my kid has a lot of friends outside of school through other settings. She's also got a lot of social skills from having to adjust to a new school -- above average comfort with approaching new people, introducing herself, and seeking to forge a new friendship. Those skills are more valuable than having a set group of friends, in my opinion.[/quote]
There are not clique moms at Title 1 schools.  They are busy working and their child is sitting on aftercare or with grandma.  They don’t have time for drama and certainly aren’t orchestrating exclusive parties and play dates [/quote]

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