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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.[/quote]

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby? [/quote]

This has to be a troll.  Even when you're actively trying to get pregnant you don't immediately "jump for joy" about a baby because it's definitely a weighty situation.[/quote]

I had never been pregnant before and he had never gotten pregnant before, so how was I supposed to know this? I just assumed if it’s something you want you’d be pretty outwardly happy about it. I guess I just had a script it my head…[/quote]

You were right, and that script is healthy and normative. PP saying you don't "jump for joy" is a nutjob. I'm a father of four and I was outwardly and inwardly every bit this happy and expressive, except at the last one, which was on the heels of a previous miscarriage. So I was a little more measured, but still very joyous.[/quote]

I'd say you're a giant red flag.  Any man who jumps for joy about an unplanned pregnancy has a deluded idea of just how serious having a baby is. These are the guys who see wives and babies as trophies to trot out, assume that dad will continue working alot and wife can 'decide' what she wants to do about work vs stay home, but you won't be contributing to household labor. But you think you are super involved. Real men consider the seriousness of both pregnancy (a very major health condition) and parenthood.  [/quote]

Jeezus. You sound like you're a lot of fun at parties. Wishing for a storm cloud on every sunny day.[/quote]

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