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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to accept that this is the level of interaction they want. Keep in mind that for a lot of old people, they don't ENJOY traveling - old people get set in their ways, their routines, their schedules. Their hearing and sight is going so being in their own home is easier - they know where everything is, etc. So traveling has to be worth it for them to give all that up.

When my grandfather lived with us, he had a REALLY hard time with eating dinner at 7 or 7:30 at night - he was used to 5:30 and could push to 6. He felt our house was always way too cold for him. He didn't ever want to go upstairs - I think it hurt but he had too much pride to say so. Being old is hard work.[/quote]

Nobody enjoys traveling. Of course it's interesting to see new places, but everybody is happy to come back to their own bed. Now if traveling means sitting on your parents couch and talking about weather -- nobody enjoys that.

OP, just cut down on traveling to them. Instead of driving to your parents for 6 hours, take your kids to a national park or to see something else they haven't seen. Interacting with selfish grandparents is overrated, and grandparents who sit at home and wait for everyone else to do the legwork is just that, selfish. For example, they could rent a cabin and invite you to somewhere interesting? Go to a beach? Often we realize it too late. I was putting in all the effort and in the end when my kid was 13 and got his own phone, guess what, not even one phone call. Even to call your own grandchild was too much effort, coming to see -- never! That was a wake-up call for me. It's not my job to develop a grandparent-grandchild relationship. [/quote]

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