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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have a sibling with special needs.  It's not downs.  But he will need to be taken care of for the rest of his life.  The financial models expect him to live to be 75.  He will outlive my parents and will even outlive ME.  (I am significantly older).

This is a terrible burden on my parents, who have had to scrimp and save and plan to ensure that there are funds to care for him.  It will be a burden on my siblings too.  Until you have lived it, you cannot even imagine the ways in which this responsibility has taken over their lives and, to be honest, destroyed their happiness, although they would never admit that out loud.

I personally would not have a child with serious special needs.  I had the tests with my last pregnancy because I was over 35.  I knew when I went for the tests that if there was anything significantly wrong, I would terminate.  I have seen first hand what life is like for the child, the parents, the marriage, and the family of a seriously SN child and I know it is not a life I would wish on anyone.

How "serious" downs is, and how serious it is in this case, I don't know.  But the best of luck to you with whatever you choose to do. [/quote]

My uncle has special needs and cannot care for himself. However, I have a completely opposite view than the poster above.  A "special needs" person is still capable of giving and receiving love.  My Uncle has taught me alot about appreciating people regardless of their disabilities.  I also think having him in my life has made me a more compassionate person.  I would never submit to genetic testing, much less abort a pregnancy over the results.  The way I look at it, everything happens for a reason and having a special needs child isn't the end of the World.  Imagine if you were in an accident that resulted in you being physically or mentally handicapped, would you want your loved ones to give up on you?
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