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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]With these kinds of assets she can live comfortably with whatever salary she earns after graduating from a top college.   If I was in you position, I'd prioritize letting her pursue her interests and living a happy life.[/quote]

But it’s not like she will have $9M at graduation. It could be 20+ years before she sees inheritance from grandparents IF they leave her anything. We can help her financially at the beginning but probably limited since we have to cover our retirement. She would eventually see a sizable inheritance but she might be in her 40’s or 50’s when we pass away…[/quote]

I am somewhat in this situation.  I figured out how to make my own money but I live a less expensive life than my parents and grandparents.  My older son is a sophomore in college and he always tells me how grateful he is that we are paying for his college and not telling him what to major in.  Just like my parents never told me what to major in or to marry rich.  My husband's parents didn't interfere with his choice of a (not lucrative) humanities major either.  He had to change career paths after college but eventually found his footing.

At some point, the greatest gift that wealth allows parents is to support their children having happy and healthy lives.  I believe it can go very wrong to push kids into career paths and rat races that they have no organic interest in.  You can explain the consequences of various occupational choices but I think it's ridiculous to force a kid to pick something high-earning when it sounds like there's zero risk of financial problems in her future.  Large houses and expensive lifestyles aren't what make people happy.  Look at all the research.  What actually makes people happy is doing better than their comparison set.  So you can reframe that for your daughter by making conscious choices now.[/quote]

OP.  Did your husband change into a more lucrative industry eventually? Was he happy with where he landed and was he happy with having to switch?

I had the same experience but wonder if majoring in a more employable field with a minor in humanities would have been an easier choice.
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PP.  My DH found a stable professional career (IT) after we left the DC area.  In the DC area, underpaying young people with a master's degree is a blood sport.  We moved so I could get a grad degree.  I make more money but together we are very comfortable.  In part this is due to living in flyover country.  My family has always prioritized intellectual fulfillment over remaining rich.  This strategy obviously wouldn't work too well for a Manhattanite or resident of DC and immediate environs.  But works pretty well elsewhere.

My DH does not regret moving past his undergraduate major/grad school training.  It has the nature of an irrevocable romantic falling out.

In my mind, the way to talk to kids about money is to let them work on things like shopping and tax paperwork. Have them start a 529 with their first job, etc.

Regarding money, I meant what I said about research showing that happiness is mostly related to whether you think you are doing well or better than your comparison group.  And sometimes that might not be driven by monetary affluence.  For example, if your marriage falls apart while your friends' marriages stay intact.

We are letting our children pick their majors and we are paying for college.  The older is doing a liberal arts non-STEM degree and the younger wants to be an engineer.  The younger one will probably have better luck in the job market.  But liberal arts majors are used to this.  My college newspaper was full of jokes about hamburger flipping.  I don't want to live in a world where nobody majors in humanities and social sciences
other than Economics.[/quote]

Excellent thoughts.   May I ask your relationship to nyc?  Why on a subgroup related to parenting issues in metro nyc.  Do your kids live here?  Don’t mean to be snarky[/quote]

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