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[quote=Anonymous]I think you should quit saying how happy you both are and how this relationship is "forever". It sounds like you are both having resentment about this issue for opposite reasons.

I'd like to know how the joint account is funded. Do you each put in $1000? Or does your partner put in $1500 and you put in $500 because they earn 3x your income? It seems like just funding the account is going to lead to the issues you're trying to avoid.

Your partner wants you to spend beyond your budget because they want to enjoy entertainment equivalent to their income. Just going to Bob's Bar & Grill instead of the fancy steakhouse isn't going to solve this issue. They want the upscale dinner and it sounds like they want you to pay for it all.

Probably because they have tallied up the value of hotel and travel expenses that they are covering from points and other perks. And they probably push for the $1000/night hotel when you might have chosen the $200/night option. So even if you pay half, you are still straining your budget.

I don't think they "love" you enough to want to carry you, in order for you to join them in their more expensive lifestyle. If you are paying half and sometimes all, they don't have to face the fact that your wealth class is a notch or two below them.

And they aren't looking at your income/expenses spreadsheet to see how much this is stretching you thin.

You are dating for now and with kids (even adult kids) on both sides, getting married would be a mess financially.

I'd bet if they were writing about this issue, they wouldn't be saying they know that you two are going to be together forever.

Something is going to break soon - either you say you've reached your financial limit and can't pay for more. Or they are going to be resentful that they are putting so much more cash into a dating relationship where they have nice tastes and an expectation that you should share the entertainment expenses equally, or even that you pay a little more because they have *reasons*.

Have that talk now, even if it means they decide they can find a future partner that can equal them in affording travel & dining expenses.[/quote]

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