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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Since you know it's an issue, on her [b]bday, anniversary, Valentine's Day, whenever you should offer to pay[/b].  You are not married and she wants to be romanced.  There is nothing wrong with that.  You could ask her what the root of her concern is.  It might be worth the convo.  I expect she is over the limitation of your income and doesn't want to finance you any more.

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I always pay 100% for these except once when there were two VD meals and I put one on the joint card.  VD day is for both partners, amirite?  And where did I reveal our sexes?

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"Sexes" shouldn't matter, but the truth is that many of us grew up with (admittedly wrong) gender expectations that are hard to shake. And the man paying for dinners out is one of them. I'm not saying it's right -- I'm saying that sometimes it is there and almost impossible to outthink. I think this is where assumptions are coming into play here, given that you have said your partner wants you to be paying for the fancy dinners. It's an assumption of course, and may be incorrect. You might not even be different sexes, of course. But gender expectations can fuel the exact problem that you are having. [/quote]

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