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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't agree.  I am speaking from the immigrant perspective who has been in 4 countries and  not from the conventional American mindset.   I think you need to have a deep conversation with him.  He should have 3 months of grace period from getting a job.

This is a time for focussing on social connections (yes, he should party with friends, get together for golf, keep the connections alive and thriving), his network (college and HS friends, professors, mentors, PI, coaches, EC connections),  his health and appearance (lose the pounds, clear the skin, get the dental checkups, up to date with vaccines, lose bad habits, therapy and career coaching if needed), and a close look at his resume, interview skills, linkedIn profile, next steps for career etc.

[b]Do not be in a hurry to throw him in a menial job at Home-Depot or McDonalds.  Because he will lose the momentum and circle that he gained in college when he transitions into doing a low-paying, low-skilled job.  He will not feel good about himself and it will drain away his confidence.

It is really bad advice and a poverty mind-set that you need to get out of.[/b] [/quote]
interesting take. not sure how i feel about this. anyone have any thoughts or input?[/quote]

I wrote above about my experience.  I was top of my college class and graduated into the 1990 recession. My parents, if they'd wanted me to take "any job" could have forced me to take a fast food counter job in my town.  Those were paying the equivalent of $8 today.  I thought about whether I should be a performatively hard-working child but I wouldn't have earned very much to offset the added costs of needing a car and car insurance.  I'm glad they didn't make me.  I had a friend who got a bad burn cleaning out a hot cheese melting machine. And my younger cousin is a culinary school grad who went into the restaurant business (executive chef now).  And a former manager of mine worked a lot in the restaurant business in MoCo.  My impression is that there are a lot of potheads and goofoffs in low end and chain restaurants.  I agree it's not a motivating environment.  And please don't send your kid to work at a hardware store if they don't know how to fix something.

If you want your kid to learn a skill there's a $4K-ish 3 week appliance repair training course in Ohio that I've had my eye on for my sons.  Worst case they learn how to handle tasks around the house.  Best case you don't have to deal with appliance repairmen ever again.  This is much more useful than asking a kid to flip burgers.

https://academy.fredsappliance.com/[/quote]

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