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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every meeting discuss if both feel good about division of mental, physical and financial loads and how to handle it all in a more efficient and empathetic manner.[/quote]

Well, the problem here is that pretty much all women (and it's always women, isn't it) who complain about their "mental load" never seem to bother to take the time to actually monitor and write down what the distribution of value to the family or the couple from each person's efforts actually is.

That's because "mental load" is a completely subjective term that isn't quantifiable.  How you feel emotionally isn't  an objective measurement of your actual contributions to the family.  Blurting out a random list of rather mundane tasks that a better organized person could handle with minimal friction and without breaking a sweat doesn't mean you are actually contributing as much as you think.

That's why this phony term had to be created.

It's also largely reflective of the woman's own preferences and obsessions which may not be objectively important at all.

No, you don't need to obsess endlessly over what color cupcakes to buy for your five year olds birthday party to make sure they put you in the best light for your Instagram post [/quote]

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