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[quote=Anonymous]I went to a very good suburban public school and a TT college, as did my spouse. This was back when being top of your class at those schools and being "well-rounded" could make you pretty certain you would get into a top college - much less of the drama there is today.

My child went to very good NYC publics K-8 then 2T private for HS. We earn mid-high six figures so four years of private HS was not easy but not a major strain - K-12 would have been a stretch, especially because our salaries grew significantly from K-8. We had options for top publics but turned them down.

We found that there were plenty of people like us at this school. Which is perhaps why we chose it and didn't aim as much for TT, even though our child would have done well there. There were also plenty of super rich people, but we felt minimal classism, likely partially because we could play the game - we went on enough nice trips and interacted with enough rich friends that we could talk the talk. But I don't think that was required.

We chose private as we thought our child would thrive in a smaller environment. They participated a lot in big public school classes and likely would have continued at a public HS, but they developed very meaningful relationships with teachers in HS. Particularly for the humanities, the smaller classes fostered more interesting projects and more discussion, which we appreciated. They were able to do some other activities that might not have been possible at public schools.

There were definitely times we questioned the decision to go private and who knows whether it was the right choice. But our child had a challenging yet "relatively" relaxed high school experience. Their intellectual curiosity was pushed and engaged but not in an overwhelming way. As much as high school is a major stepping stone, it is also a period of life that should be enjoyed, and we accomplished this.

I do not judge other people's decisions because everyone has different circumstances. So I offer my perspective, making sure to be clear about the situation and constraints we faced. And generally speaking I don't think there is a "wrong" answer.[/quote]

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