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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]40F here. I’ve found there’s no shortage of decent men who want to settle down. Attractive, successful, kind, etc.

The main issue I run into is that our lives just don’t align. I’m still in the thick of raising kids and building a career. Older men have slowed down and want someone who can travel a bunch with them; younger men want someone who can prioritize their career; men in my same situation are so busy we never really have time to meet. [/quote]

You left out that the good ones are pretty much already taken.  If everything else in your life is a higher priority than your relationship, you can't expect to be taken seriously by a man who is looking for one.[/quote]

In my experience, the good ones aren’t all taken. There are tons of men in their 30s/40s who prioritized their career and now want to settle down, or who married too young and got a divorce but are otherwise good guys.

I’m okay if men don’t take me seriously because I can’t put them #1. They’re entitled to their preferences. However, I absolutely need someone who understands my kids come first, and my career comes second, because I don’t want to be financially dependent on anyone. If they can’t understand that, no problem, but we aren’t a match.

I have a couple friends who remarried men that financially support them while they handle the domestic work for both sets of kids, and overall they’re struggling financially and are extremely stressed out. Not interested in that life. [/quote]

PP, how can you expect men to take you seriously when you are not taking them seriously? According to you, they come #3 in your priority so you would be #3 or 4 in the their priority too. Some people don't want to put efforts for relationship and then complain that men or women or whatever circumstances are not good[/quote]

That’s okay with me. I would be a bad mother if I put a boyfriend ahead of my kids.

My career comes first because I wasted too much time in my youth prioritizing men who promised things like marriage but never actually followed through. And I’ve seen too many women who prioritized the man and his career, and were screwed years later when they divorced.

I’m okay with being single. I would rather be single and play the field, than prematurely give up parts of my life for a man who ultimately doesn’t stick around. I’m also 40 and have no intention of having more kids, so it’s not practical for me to expect a man to financially support me (nor do I want them to).[/quote]

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