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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a 10-12yo girl should know IMO:

1. The basic mechanics of sex. 
2. What changes she should expect as puberty unfolds and that these changes are both physical and emotional. Sometimes the burst in hormones will clause the latter to be particularly irrational.
3. That mommy and daughter may argue more over the next few years but mommy loves her and has her best interests in mind. Mom went through puberty too and learned a few things. 
4. That masturbation is normal and healthy and that it's okay to do it as often as she wants to behind closed doors.
5. That what she posts on the Internet/sends to a friend should be assumed to be public information. She shouldn't send anything she wouldn't want her mom to see. She should never use her full real name for most internet applications and never give out her home address, phone, etc.
6. That taking and sending nude photos of herself is illegal and could get her arrested.

Beyond that, I think you have to wait another year or two for her maturity to catch up before you can dive into subjects like...

1. People have sex for many good reasons, including reproduction, fun, and pleasure, and for bad reasons, including the desire to dominate or accomplish something. Sex can be fun with the right person in the right setting.
2. Sex is not love and love is not sex. 
3. It's her body; she's in control. No means no.
4. Sex and intimacy carries with it a lot of emotional baggage.
5. That boys may be out to use her; she cannot trust their intentions. 
6. A boy may not love and care for her if she lets him have sex with her.
7. The cost to raise a child is like $500,000. Does she have that kind of money? 
8. You have a child to give it unconditional love, not the other way around.
9. Having a child is a complete game changer.
10. One in four women in the US has Herpes. Go into a thorough explanation of STDs and STIs.
11. Offer to put her on the pill when she thinks she's ready. [/quote]

Excellent advice. I found this really helpful.[/quote]

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