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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the OP. My friend isn’t irresponsible and can go to sleep at a regular time, but they still enforce bedtimes. Don’t you think being an adult means parents don’t need to enforce bedtimes anymore, and kids can deal with the consequences, whether their in HS or not? And I don’t think this is comparable to being a stay at parent. Can the working spouse enforce childlike rules (they also will not let her stay alone for a week while they go away) on the stay at home parent, just because they’re not earning any money?[/quote]

Your friend is an adult so she is choosing to live with her family under these rules.  She is free to leave if she doesn't like the rules.  But she doesn't get to a vote on the house rules because she is not in charge of the house.[/quote]
Okay, what’s the justification behind enforcing childlike rules on an 18 year old? If she was 45, and lived there, would it still be okay for them to make her have a bedtime?[/quote]

Everybody is telling you that she can MOVE OUT. Otherwise parents set the rules, one for not disturbing the house when the parents themselves sleep. They will also not let her stay alone because she's on their insurance. You obviously have no understanding how much anything costs nor the responsibilities. Like if your friend sets the house on fire while alone, then what? If a 45 yo lives with parents and doesn't contribute, yes, the parents get to set the rules. Now stop asking the same thing over and over. [/quote]

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