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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What level of care does your mother need? Does she need help with bathing, grooming, making herself, tea, getting dressed? Are these people who will have a car and can take your mother out to the grocery store or doctors appointments? Staffing at these facilities is always thin. Hiring somebody to come check in on your mother and help her out with things will give her a better quality of life and ensure that she gets whatever assistance she needs.

Among all of the siblings, how much money total will you be sending? Having someone come for a few hours a day every day would be about $3500 a month.

If it’s Medicaid, when your mother passes, will there be any estate or will there be nothing to inherit?[/quote]

There is no estate.  She has no assets and lives on Social Security and what we send her.  And I question the need for someone who isn't family to be paid to come visit her for a few hours a day once she's in the nursing home.  When she was in her own home, sure.  But now she isn't.

What I really think is going on here is my sister wants to continue to keep a very close eye on her, exactly as she did when she was in her own home, but doesn't want to do it on her own.  As I said, she long resisted a nursing home because she says she finds them too depressing to visit.  And she likes and trusts the woman we've been paying to come to the house and now just wants her to come to the home.  In other words, she wants the same set up for overseeing our mother, only now in a home instead of her house.  And I question the need for that.[/quote]

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