Reply to 2E parent of a 2E child

Forum Index » Kids With Special Needs and Disabilities

Reply to "2E parent of a 2E child"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And no, he is not on the spectrum. He has a major league executive dysfunction problem combined with a laissez faire/ "who, me?" attitude.And it's always external forces, always someone else's problem/responsibility/mistake. Not him.[/quote]

It sounds like he is trying to avoid shame and preserve his dignity in the face of an overwhelming problem. Kids say they don't care, but really they do, they just don't know how to solve the problem and they are ashamed and try to save face.[/quote]

He absolutely is--by doing nothing. Which is just more work avoidance.

I have very direct messages to him like, "keeping your head in the sand and pretending this will go away will not make it go away" rather you have to deal with the problem and "there is no secret sauce, there is no magic formula, you just have to DO YOUR HOMEWORK." and "I get that you don't know what you want to do, and that's okay, but the absolute bare minimum you do have to do is get the grades so that when you do understand more about who you are and what you want to do, you have a chance" and also call him on it when he is making excuses, blaming others, and behaving disgracefully (say by not handing in work in a class he claims to love with a teacher who has gone out of his way to help him). I also do not mince word when he is behaving shamefully (as with this teacher).

Kids today seem to think proud parents and high self esteem is automatic, when really they come from actually doing things.[/quote]

Okay but what you're describing IS his disability and yelling at him about it won't help. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics