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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The clothing and hygiene thing suggests sensory issues. Have you had that looked into?[/quote]

He has some sensory issues, mostly around sounds. When he was younger he wanted fabrics to be soft like a lot of boys but that is better now.[/quote]

I suspect sensory is driving the clothes and the hygiene.

You need to de-escalate your relationship by picking the highest priorities and dropping the rope on others. Stop hassling him constantly. Stop crying, punishing, yelling, begging, etc. Do that for a few weeks and then see if he's willing to explain to you his reasoning for wearing dirty clothes. There may be a reason![/quote]

Sensory is not driving any of it. It is all cognitive and character. He does not see anything or any obvious areas of low function.[/quote]

I definitely do not believe that. Who would want to be stinky if they could easily avoid it?

Is he on the spectrum?

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He is not stinky yet. But, you do not seem to understand the type of person he is. Who would want to be wearing pants that are too short, jackets that are too big, collars that aren't buttoned, clothes from the dirty hamper, jackets and ties that have food stains on them? Who wants to show up with greasy hair and smelly feet? Him. He would. He simply has no internal standards or sense or self-presentation. [/quote]

Well, does he actually have a sense of smell? Start there. Some people are born without it.

He sounds on the spectrum. This is a social behavior issue and if he cannot understand the social reasons and social consequences, he has a social skills problem.[/quote]

Look, you sound nice and I know you are trying to be helpful, but you don't get it. Yes, he has a sense of smell (better than mine). He has a self-esteem problem in the sense that he does not think he has a problem. He thinks this is all fine and I am the one being unreasonable. [/quote]

Does he really believe that, or is that what he's saying to you?

In any case, I don't think hygiene is a priority at the moment so I suggest you stop working on it. Let him be disgusting and take whatever consequences arise. [/quote]

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