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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I don't see why OP needs to attack someone who disagrees and I don't think its necessary to use the word mutilation.  Our DS was circumcised for religious reasons and I certainly don't think he was mutilated.  There are arguments on both sides.  It DOES prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV.  On the other hand, some people think it affects sensation (though, uh , none of the circumcised men I've been with seemed deprived in that area.)  Having witnessed my son's bris it was clear to me that he wasn't being tortured.  It took literally seconds and the moyel gave him a tiny bit of wine.  I think they also sometimes use topical anesthetics.

There's no right answer here but OP if you keep with the highly charged language I don;t see how you are going to resolve this with your husband.  Seriously, if I were him I would think you were so jacked up about this issue that we wouldn't even be able to discuss it.  The hit to your marriage seems more significant than anything the baby will go through.[/quote]

OP here.

I think you missed my question.

We're in a very happy marriage, we love each other and could not be more thrilled with the arrival of our little one. Marriage counseling is not necessary.

And if you think that mutilating your son will prevent him from getting an STD you should educate yourself about the issue.[/quote]

Did you read my post?  Thats not why my DS is circumcised.  Honestly I don;t care what other people choose to do.  And if circumcision diminishes the rate of STDs, then it is preventing the transmission of STDs.  Not for everyone, but for some.

But mostly I don;t see how you are going to work this out with your husband when you use such hyperbolic language and completely dismiss his point of view.  That his son will look like him and will be more accepted in the locker room may not matter to you, but it clearly matters to him.  I have trouble thinking your marriage is so happy when all you do is scream mutilation and NO in response.  This is how you solve problems, by not just dismissing your DH's point of view but by accusing him of monstrosities?  Why is your insistence that your child will not be circumcised under any circumstances, case closed, any different than his insistence that your son is circumcised?  Because you're right and he's wrong?  Good luck getting through the child raising years with your marriage in tact.  This is just the first argument of many, many you will have about parenting decisions large and small.  All marriages can be strained by this, particularly if you have a child facing any kind of difficulty and you can't agree on a response.  And what you've demonstrated is that you won't even listen to him, won't consider his opinion as worthy, and will just steamroll over him.  Good luck with that.[/quote]

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