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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Larla and Larlo have been dating for 5 weeks, seeing each other about once a week. They’ve slept together 3 times.

The last time they met up (which was early afternoon), Larlo mentioned he had plans that evening. Larla asked if it was a date, Larlo said yes. Larla asked if Larlo was sleeping with her as well, Larlo said yes.

Larla broke things off because while he didn’t directly lie, he failed to communicate he was sleeping with someone else. Larlo maintains that he did nothing wrong since they hadn’t talked about being exclusive, and was still figuring out which woman he wanted to commit to, but has told Larla he will stop seeing the other woman and exclusively date her.

Larla is debating it, but is leaning towards no, because she believes he should have been upfront and honest about sleeping with someone else even if they weren’t exclusive because of the emotional and STD risks. Dating others would have been fine, sleeping with them, not okay. Also, felt very gross that Larlo literally slept with her that afternoon and the other woman that evening.

Who is right/wrong here?[/quote]

No one did anything wrong. Some people require an emotional connection. Some people don't. Some are fine with partners sleeping around. Some aren't - probably most. But when in dating mode, this should all be settled before getting intimate. The thing with apps and dating is that there are unlimited options for attractive people. Basically, he's not that into you - so to speak - if he's seeing other women 5 weeks in when you have already been intimate. You're not wrong to drop him. And he's not wrong to keep sleeping around, because obviously monogamy and giving things a chance is not his focus. The dude is a player. And so are a lot of women. Be direct and straightforward about your needs and expectations before getting intimate. There's often a big difference between a fun night and I want to marry this person. This dude is in fun night mode.  [/quote]

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