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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stepped back from my career that I loved to raise the kids. The reasons were:

1) just being pregnant was really hard on me
2) giving birth and recovering from that took time
3) men cannot breast-feed, if you want to breast-feed your baby, it’s on you. Pumping doesn’t really solve that because you still have to wake up to pump.

Between #1 and #2, a year is gone. Then another year for the not sleeping through the night phase and #3. x3 kids and you have six years. At that point you have a two, four, and six-year-old, and it is really tough to have both parents working in demanding full-time non flexible jobs where you cannot work from home at all, possibly unless you have some reliable family help. In my experience, hired help isn’t the same, they’re just not as dependable, it’s tough to get them to work the hours that you truly need, and frankly they’re not as good. And then the kids get a little older and things get easier, but then something like Covid hits and they are home again, and since you’ve been the one home all along, it’s still you. Then you get into the high school where the demands, stress, and the drama increase, plus you have been out a really long time, and it just feels like it doesn’t make sense to try to go back. [/quote]

- You need to live in a multi-generational home where every person is looked after.  No exploitation.  
- You need to pool resources to buy larger homes in nicer neighborhoods with better public schools.  
- You need pooled resources that allows for multi-gen homes to get cleaners and part time cooks. 
- You need nannies who can help the grandparents with childcare so that they are not exhausted. 
- You need grandparents who have done the Swedish Death Cleanse so that their stuff is sorted and their health is good. 
- You need a close-knit family and lots of patience.

But, this is the only model I saw working well in my entire life in the US where the woman is also working - and the family could have it all.

This probably won't work here because people are stressing if DH takes MIL for brunch on mother's day.  LOL.

[i][b]Oh, where is my village?[/b][/i]  :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

Destined to live in a rich country but live unhappy shitty lives.[/quote]

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