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[quote=Anonymous]When I prioritized my career, I got punished - complaints from boyfriends about how I wasn't spending enough time with them, and, in the case of my DH, he cheated on me repeatedly.  When I asked him what it would take for him to change, his response was that I needed to be with him 24/7 - he was dead serious.  That, of course, was the death knell of our relationship.  I left him, but he had his revenge by refusing to take any custody of our 2 kids, which basically ruined the career I had trained for and worked in because it required travel that wasn't compatible with being a single mom.

Many men believe that it is the woman's job to service them in many dimensions beyond sexual. When faced with having to do 2 jobs - paid work and all the unpaid work w/ home & parenting, many women reasonably choose to have just 1 job.

Given the era I grew up in - 70s/80s - I personally thought I would be able to have a career and kids too. I thought we were past all the sexism that kept women out of the work place.  Many women manage it.  But, in my case, a husband who was completely feckless in terms of home and parenting, combined with 2 kids who had their own serious illnesses finally made me give up my career (and my husband).  I work, but it's not what I would consider a "career". It's just a job that pays the bills (barely) and allows me to be there when my kids need me. [/quote]

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