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[quote=Anonymous]OP. I don't like the tone of a couple of the above posts and I am sorry you have to read through that. The content of the posts is good though. I think you probably already know that there is a problem. Have you had your vitamin D checked? Have you been checked for auto immune issues? I have raised many kids including fostering babies. So I have done a lot of bottle feeding. Formula feeding is definitely a good decision for you. Sounds like a good part of your plan if/when you have a baby. However, formula feeding is also exhausting in the night. The bottle has to be prepared and then fed to the baby. Baby then gets changed, burped. Then baby decides not to go to sleep for a while but to play with your nose and earrings and look around. you rock the baby. Then more bottle. More burping. Ooops... Baby just filled the diaper completely so you change the diaper. Start over with trying to get baby back to sleep. No luck. You go outside and baby quiets down as you look at the stars. You tiptoe back in and lay baby down. You lay down and sleep. You have been up for an hour. 1 hour and 42 minutes go by. baby is awake again. You start over. If it is your DH doing all the nighttime baby stuff, then DH looks at the clock and realizes it is time to get up for work because it is now 5:00 am. So now you are on duty and baby is awake and you have not slept even if DH has gotten up for baby. Meanwhile DH goes to work and simply can't hold it together for 80 hours/week because of exhaustion. A nanny is necessary I think. And maybe a night nanny too for the first year. Can you stay home and focus on baby (with nanny there?) and work on reclaiming your health? If you rest during the day while nanny is there to help, could you then have energy to get up at night? I am just trying to brainstorm solution that might work under the circumstances you are in. You will figure it out. Glad you posted because it can be helpful to get some realistic feedback from people who have been there!! P.S. when you are bottle feeding in the night, we have always found it helpful to have all the bottles ready at bedtime with just the dry powder in it, already measured exactly into each bottle. Then we filled a thermos with the (very) warm water at the right temperature for the baby. The thermos kept the water just right and quite warm all night long. When baby awoke, we poured the warm water from the thermos into the bottle, shook it and it was immediately ready. So baby did not cry long. I believe in a warm bottle because it helps them digest and they don't wake up as fully as they do with a cold bottle (which some people do just fine, and that works for them and their babies ... It is very individual). We also took the thermos with warm water in the car for on the go feedings. This way you have warm bottles but don't have to heat them up, either at night or on the go. We like to camp in the summer and the babies go along and so does the thermos for middle of the night feedings in the tent!!! [/quote]
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