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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend came to me with the saddest mid-divorce reveal I’ve ever heard. When her only child was born, her DH only had 2 weeks of paternity leave. He didn’t take all of it and went back 2 days early. It was really hard on her and sometimes we still look back on those days pretty ruefully. The worst part was he worked for a Fortune 500 company that changed paternity-specific leave to parental leave that year and gave everyone with a new child 12 weeks, paid. He ended up covering leave for half his team while they still had their own tiny baby at home.

As part of some kind of mediation session during divorce, she found out that he actually had 6 weeks leave and just never took it. Which explained why when she asked him to petition to HR to be grandfathered in or get some kind of additional leave when they changed the policy, he said it was impossible.

I’ve never heard anything quite so specific and awful that wasn’t an affair. She’s asking me if she’s crazy. Am I ok in validating that this was a supremely messed up act of deception? Why would a father do that?[/quote]

That’s not even close to the “saddest mid divorce reveal.”

Get a grip OP.

Not even sure how you trolled this lame of a non point up. [/quote]

It’s sad because it shows he had no interest in his infant and was willing to lie to be able to not be a parent (and support his wife when she was in a really vulnerable period of his life). If you have never experienced this, count yourself lucky. My ex all but abandoned us when our child was a newborn - 3 years old. One year did not even show up for his birthday. It was extremely hard on me and so upsetting I had a hard time even telling other people about it. I bet this is part of the overall dynamic with OP’s friend.

And before you ask - no, my ex did not have to work those hours, he chose to. And I went back to work after 3 months and out earned him most of that time - even making considerable jumps in salary while balancing being a mom.  [/quote]

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