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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD is 19. Last year she didn’t get into her top-choice college and after that lost interest in going at all, even though she got into other very good schools, just not the college she wanted.

At home, she’s great—very nice, respectful, helps around the house, close with her siblings, and we spend a lot of time together. We get along well. She also has a BF (he’s a nice kid, currently a 21yo college senior studying neuroscience) and she sees him regularly—they go out to dinner, spend time together on weekends and breaks, etc. She’ll also participate in family activities outside the house.

What’s changed is that she really doesn’t like leaving the house otherwise. We used to do things together all the time—run errands, go shopping, just normal day-to-day outings—and now she has no interest in that at all. She avoids some important things, like preferring telehealth instead of going to doctor appointments in person or putting off things that require her to go out.

She doesn’t seem depressed—she’s engaged at home and in a good mood overall. It’s more that she seems very content staying in unless it’s something she really wants/needs to do.

How concerning does this sound? Is this just a phase or something more concerning?[/quote]

My best friend from college was like that. She lived at home for years.  Was not very high achieving.  Worked in a day care for a long time after college.  Finally got an apartment around age 28 or so.  Married around 31 or so to a guy she'd been dating forever.  They had two kids.  She stayed at home.  When the kids were grown she went back to work as a paraeducator.  Her husband was a teacher and finally a principal.

She has had a truly happy, good life.  It just looks different from what we all may expect in this area.  She knew herself well enough to be true to her needs and wants.  I think she is a great role model. [/quote]

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