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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. Rejection is a part of life, but public rejection does not need to be. If your company is doing layoffs, do they line everyone up and publicly announce who gets to keep their job? If you don’t think that would be appropriate for adults, why do you think it would be appropriate for children?[/quote]

Please stop. This is a ridiculous comment. This happens at most tryouts where players are moved to their respective teams in front of all of the other candidates. I’m sorry your DC was cut or moved down. They will be better for it in the long run. Teaching moment - it will teach them to persevere. [/quote]

You stop. [b]You know nothing about child development or psychology. There is no benefit to being rejected in front of peers. I know of what I speak. That is not a growth experience; it’s an experience that causes shame.[/b] The teaching moment can happen through a conversation between the parent/coach and player when they get cut or moved down. You need to separate the rejection from the public aspect of it. I’m sorry for your children that you are raising them with such little awareness of things that can affect them greatly. [/quote]

I am not that parent and I don’t have a psychology degree but I am a little disappointed in this response if you are a professional. My kid is only 11 and has read Victor Frankie “Man’s Search for Meaning.” They understand that any circumstance in their life depends on how they interpret it. My kid does not feel shame because they don’t allow something as silly as an A team and B team determine their worth. They know that any evaluation: grades, tryouts, standardized test, school acceptances, etc. are evaluations at a certain point in time and have no bearing on who they are as people. If they want a different outcome, they must evaluate what they are doing and change. If your child feels shame due to the actions of others, that is a parenting issue that you can now change if you weren’t aware before.[/quote]

Totally agree, thanks for sharing.[/quote]

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