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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents' wealth has nothing to do with anything. It's about the kids having a work ethic, and being able to support themselves as an adult. We are in the position of having our kid be a trust fund baby, but she sure as hell is not going to be one (not our plan or hers).

OP, have her start therapy, because there is some sort of underlying problem here. Depression, anxiety, something that needs intervention. Her behavior is not normal, nor is failing to recognize that the ability to hold down a job and support themselves is a life skill. Your child is 19, not 5.

She most definitely needs a job. Or two. She can pay rent, car payments, gas in the car, insurance, etc.

Someone I know has a kid that took a gap year, IMO with the intent to play video games endlessly and hang out with friends. [b]Instead, he worked two jobs, one starting very early in the morning, and got motivated about going to college. [/b]He's starting in the fall.[/quote]

This is similar to my husband’s story, although a bit different. He essentially flunked out of college and moved home for a gap year, said he was never going back. His parents made him get a full time job that involved a lot of manual labor and lo and behold, he realized college wasn’t so bad compared to schlepping boxes for minimum wage. He went back and got an engineering degree.

In this day and age, I don’t think ‘going to college’ is the only or right path, but everyone should be prepared to support themselves. You should make her get some sort of job and she may change her tune about not wanting to go to college or pursue a trade, etc. [/quote]

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