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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What new rules will your AC need if they return home and live with you after graduating? Did you not raise them well to begin with?

When my kid lived with us for 4 years after her undergrad this was my desire for her
- She will be getting further degree/credentials that would jump start a high paying career
- She would then get a good job in her field and bank most of her money
- She would be socializing as normal part of our family
- She would be socializing with her friends, organizing activities, traveling, new experiences and meetups with her different groups of friends so that she did not feel isolated,
- She would be keeping up with her professional network
- Exercising, nutrition, good sleep, utilizing being on our health insurance to get annual checkups and care etc.

I did not want her to pay for anything other than her socializing.  Yes, I cleaned the house, watered the plants, did laundry, cooked food etc.  Stuff that I was already doing.  My idea was not to make her uncomfortable and chase her out of the house.  My aim was to create a haven for her so that she can concentrate on a constructive path and make very good choices for her future.

What will you gain by creating more stress for a new graduate who comes home? They are already mourning the end of their college life and being away from friends.  They are already worried about the job market? They are already feeling lonely and depleted.

But, my kid was a good and sensible kid, so I was not worried about drinking, drugs, hooking up, vaping etc.  She was a normal UMC high performing kid from a conservative cultural background. [/quote]

Expecting your adult kid to help with chores/clean up after themselves should not "chase them out of the house".  If you raised your kids correctly, asking them to clean up their bathroom, clean up the kitchen after using it, etc shouldn't come as a shock---our kids were already doing that in HS.

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