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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Either way - how is it for you as a parent? Any way you fill ill-equipped? Or no big deal?[/quote]

We are equal in looks, popularity, etc.  we are VERY different in ambition and drive.  I have it coming out of my ears since birth.  I was the 2 year old who potty trained myself and against my parents advice went for the PhD and insisted on a spouse that had the same.  My kid is very gifted and can do so much - but she’d rather sit around and whine.  Yes, I fundamentally don’t get it.  I’m so ill equipped to deal with it. She is also model gorgeous and lacks people skills so struggles socially.  I struggled some socially too, but I was able to have a solid group of friends and a high school boyfriend.  DD goes for the “kids who won’t reject her” - basically kids who want to use her, use drugs, or have other severe social problems.

OP - to answer your question- I am so ill equipped.  I keep trying and failing ever day.  I won’t give up, but I’m not winning any parenting awards.[/quote]

I see this a lot. Parents who are Type A and very high achieving and kids who just...aren't meeting that bar. I think a lot of it has to do with them seeing something that they read as not worth it and just opting out. In some cases, not trying because they don't want to fail or disappoint. In other cases, seeing the end-goal and thinking [b]"if all this gets me is a regular house and a regular life and a tightly wound personality, no thanks.[/b]"

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OMG, this is my DC2.  I got a very similar speech last week.[/quote]

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